One of the biggest reasons your abuser chose you as their ‘target partner‘ is because they perceived you to be a kind, generous, and selfless person. But, unlike a “normal” person, they weren’t looking for these qualities because they also have them and want a partner who will appreciate and share them.
The Serial Abuser
A serial abuser is looking for these qualities in a target so that they can later exploit them when they’re doing things they know they shouldn’t. They don’t want to have to make an effort to “fix things” with a take-no-crap kind of person, as that would be too much trouble. No, they want someone more easygoing and empathic, so that after they’ve neglected, lied to, or cheated on them, they won’t have to put in much effort to make things better.