When life gets rough, tough, or downright frustrating, it’s not unusual to want to curl up with a carton of Ben + Jerry’s and binge on Netflix till you’re ready to play again. And while I agree that a temporary withdrawal may be the very thing you need to get back on your feet, you don’t want to plan for a pity party, no matter how enticing it may be.
What do you do when you’re feeling blue?
“Why?” you may be thinking, “It’s not hurting anyone if I just disconnect, and pout about my life for a while.” And I get why you feel that way, I really do. But when your vibe is low and you’re feeling blue, it doesn’t just affect the quality of this moment, or only you, but it can also negatively impact those who love you and your future moments too.
You see, every experience you have reflects the sum total of your thoughts, ideals, and beliefs in that area, or more specifically, they match the value of your energetic frequency. So, if you’re feeling low, that’s the frequency you’re emitting. This means the quality of your experiences must match this low vibe or energy. No Bueno!
Want to Put an End to Your Pity Party?
If you find yourself in a pity party or are tempted to throw yourself one, here are some things you can do to self-soothe, and get yourself back to feeling fabulous in no time.
When life throws us a curveball, it’s easy for our diet to slip, skip the gym, and let our sleep habits get out of whack. However, this is the exact time you have to take the best care of yourself. So, if you’re feeling blue, make sure you eat healthy foods, move your body, and get your beauty sleep. Believe me, your body and future self will thank you.
Give In (A Bit)
To be clear, if you’re really feeling blue, sometimes the best thing to do is to give into it and find out what gifts it has for you. Obviously, you’re sad for a reason. Ask yourself the tough questions, like “Why did this happen?” “What is it here to teach me?” and “How can I make things better moving forward?” Every experience brings us a gift, in the form of a lesson, we just need to learn not to wallow in it.
Betcha’ didn’t see that one coming, did ya? Well, this is one of my favorites, as it’s really hard to connect with the part of your brain that innovates and creates while throwing yourself a pity party. The reason being is self-pity is associated with a victim-mentality or worthlessness, and the act of creating sets off an internal signal that you are so powerful that you can create something from nothing.
It’s okay to have moments of sadness, as they show up to help guide you on your journey. However, the key to being able to deliberately create your reality is to use them as tools, or points of contrast, so that you can focus on ideas that will make your life what you want it to be.