Do you find yourself in defensive mode when a problem arises between you and your partner?  Instead of feeling attacked, it’s possible – with practice – to diffuse situations so that nobody is left feeling blamed.

An open mind, in questions that are not ultimate, is useful. – C.S. Lewis

Aubrey had received a phone call from her husband John, and he was fuming. She had communicated something to his mother that he felt wasn’t appropriate and that action really upset him. When she picked up the phone, she was feeling verbally attacked by John: