I am sometimes so busy with other people’s problems that I neglect the problems my family experiences from time to time. I guess it’s the proverbial territory where the doctor’s family is ill, the mechanic’s car is broken, and the plumber’s pipes are leaking. A while ago my son came into the kitchen with the kind of unhappy face I only get from my most depressed clients. The therapist rather than the father in me kicked in and I had to ask: “Are you happy with whom you are my boy?” As expected from a twelve-year-old, he didn’t get the question and thought I was referring to his rights at home. At that age, happiness means getting everything your heart desires and his answer clearly proved his age.
Finding Peace in a Social Network or a Gay Community
Dr. Brand Doubell is a sexologist, life coach, and relationship therapist in South Africa. He is co-owner and founder of the Cobrastone marriage program, the Cobragay group for helping gay people with rejection, and The Happy Clinic. He studied theology, philosophy and psychology in South Africa and in the Netherlands.