One of the many things we struggle with as we learn to recover from divorce is learning to rebuild our self-esteem.
It’s easy to understand why this is such an issue. When your marriage ends, you may feel rejected. You may feel unworthy. You sit crying on your couch, a pint of Ben & Jerry’s at hand, wondering why your spouse does not love you anymore. Maybe you think, as you’re stumbling through the list of to-do’s and the stress of everything else going on in your life, that nobody will ever find you attractive and worthy of love.
But I am here to tell you to knock that bullsh*t off because it’s simply not true.
Never forget for a second that you are a badass and that you are strong and beautiful.
So, today, as we get a quick lesson on rebuilding your self-esteem, you need to embrace the following self-esteem revelation:
What happened to you does not define you.
Ending a marriage, and any relationship for that matter, is not fun. It causes us to question who we are, what we thought our life was, and where we are in this universe. We tend to define ourselves solely within the terms of being a partner, and we become dependent on that position as a means to validate ourselves. We start to place our entire value on being a spouse, rather than putting that focus on something healthy—the independent, kind person that you are.