I get blank stares when I tell friends I am writing for a relationship magazine. I live in a world of hedge fund managers, big city attorneys, and successful business owners. In the locker room at my gym, they talk about their race cars, private jets, and country club memberships. Through the bluster and bravado, their distress is palpable. These so called “masters of the universe” openly admit ignorance, if not utter failure, in the most important aspect of their life, relationships. They are reeling from the divorce, the affair or the multiple new and much younger girlfriends. This takes an ever-increasing toll on their existence. I know many of their personal stories, and their relationship journeys are painful. My hope is they will see beyond the ego and material possessions and set a new course, one towards a successful relationship journey.
THE BEGINNING OF RELATIONSHIP
To understand our relationship journey, we must take a trip back in time to the most important event in human history. This is a journey of 13.82 billion years! There, you will remember who you are and the story of human existence. It affirms your preeminence in the contrasting mix called life. This is a discussion based on scientific fact, not opinions, feelings or hearsay.
Our story starts at the beginning when the entire universe was one verse (the root of the word universe means one verse). This is before we had time, space, and relationships, when everything was one – unified, a complete whole. This was before the big bang when all that we now know, the entire universe, was smaller than the head of a pin. Despite this perfection, the universe desired more! It yearned to experience its perfection. You need to understand imperfection to experience perfection. It loved the oneness but could not experience it since there was nothing else (metaphorically speaking). Creation used humanity to experience itself. Before the big bang, experience was not possible. Humanity is the culmination of the Universe’s greatest desire.