Recovery from addiction takes a huge investment of energy. That energy is less available when diluted by defensiveness. Addicts can create their own defensiveness, but they are also surrounded by…...

Happy, safe, secure, comfortable, valued.  These are some of the feelings that you would generally expect to experience from a relationship. Of course, problems and discussions – to some extent –…...

Dr. Margaret Paul, shares her insights on healing food addiction through the practice of Inner Bonding.  Hannah was distressed that, with all the inner work she had done on herself,…...

Poor Narcissus. The gods sentenced him to a life without human love. He fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water and died hungering for its…...

Many people ask whether narcissists can change or benefit from therapy. Because narcissists see the cause of their problems as external due to their defenses of denial, distortion, and projection,…...

Codependency is sneaky and powerful. You may not be aware that it’s the root cause of your problems. Focusing your thinking and behavior around someone else is a sign of…...

Projection is a defense mechanism commonly used by abusers, including people with narcissistic or borderline personality disorder and addicts. Basically, they say, “It’s not me, it’s you.” When we project,…...

You may be fooled by a covert narcissist, but they’re every bit as much narcissists as the stereotypical, extroverted narcissists. Some narcissists may emphasize one personality trait over others. A…...

Think of the Dark Triad of Narcissism, Psychopathy, and Machiavellianism as the Bermuda Triangle – it’s perilous to get near it! The traits of all three often overlap and create…...

Narcissists can be beguiling and charismatic. In fact, one study showed that their likable veneer was only penetrable after seven meetings. But you don’t want to fall in love with…...