Adam Blum discusses what it means for gay men to be vulnerable in their relationships, particularly the benefits of being “needy” – in a healthy way.
Two men loving each other is still a radical act.
Yes, we now have the legal right to marry each other.
But do we have the freedom to be really vulnerable with our man?
From what I see, most of the time the answer is no.
We may be married, but we are still men. That means we are not allowed to be soft, vulnerable, or needy.
When I work with straight couples, typically the woman in the room is much more likely to express her vulnerable need for attention. And she is often ready to take the lead when soothing is required.