Lisa Copeland gives 5 warning signs to avoid being ghosted in over 50’s dating.
According to the Urban Dictionary, the definition of ghosting is: “The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date.”
A real-life definition looks like this: you meet a man, you have amazing chemistry, you hang out, have awesome sex, you bond with him. then he disappears — ultimately breaking your heart.
When You’re Being Ghosted
He doesn’t answer your calls or texts, and you are so confused and concerned about his well being.
You’re feeling hurt.
You start to second guess yourself thinking maybe you did something wrong.
You can’t believe just last week, you were making plans, and now he’s gone.
Any of this sound familiar?
If it does, you’re not alone.
Ghosting happens to both men and women every day.
Before the Internet, when people were fixed up by friends, no one would have thought to vanish into thin air like they do today.
Their reputation was at stake, and they didn’t want to face the judgment of their friends doing a disappearing act.
Back in the day, it’s likely they’d have done the proper thing and said, “I think we’re not a match.”
You’d have had closure, maybe some tears, but you’d have known why things weren’t working out.
In today’s world, no one is holding anyone accountable so it’s easy to disappear.
Men think by not answering your texts or calls, they are NOT hurting your feelings.
What they don’t realize is you hurt even more because you have no idea what caused the rift and have no way to fix it.
You can’t totally prevent this from happening, but I want to give you some warning signs that can help you at least recognize the potential for ghosting is there.
Ghosting Warning Signs
And I mean the type that is hot where you can’t take your hands off each other, and the sex is so amazing
Hot chemistry can keep you from seeing who a man really is.
Why? Because hot chemistry and hot sex cause the hormone oxytocin to be released.
This is the bonding hormone that you can feel for weeks after being intimate with a man.
And when you have all that oxytocin running through your body, you have a tendency to trust someone who might not be trustable.
The best thing you can do is slow things down so you have an opportunity to get to know a man before you get too involved with him.
2. He won’t commit to being exclusive with you.
You bring up the “let’s be exclusive” conversation, and he comes back with something like, “We’re having so much fun, let’s just see where it goes.”
You agree to it because you’re bonding with him every time you have sex and what you have feels really good.
But the problem is the bonding can also cause you to misinterpret lust as love.
So pay attention when a man says he’s about the fun not about having a relationship with you.
This is a huge red flag if you want a relationship.
3. You find yourself feeling more clingy and needy because you don’t how you fit into his life.
You want to have the talk about the relationship and where it’s headed.
Instead of being honest about his feelings, he just disappears.
Why? Because he doesn’t want to get involved in some type of confrontation with you about how to move a relationship to the next level when in his mind, there is no relationship.
4. You start talking ‘future talk,’ and he goes silent.
He knows there’s no future.
He’s just in this for the fun.
He stays silent when you talk about the future then disappears versus “hurting your feelings.”
5. He tries to end it, but you draw him back into the relationship because you’ve bonded and you miss him so much when you’re apart.
At this point, he feels like you’re not hearing him, so instead of going through the drama of another breakup with you, he just disappears.
Really listen to the words a man says to you because men mean what they say.
And if you ignore his words or think he’ll change once he gets to know you better, you’re potentially setting yourself up to be ghosted.
So remember these 5 tips.
They can save you a LOT of heartaches and can keep you from getting involved with the wrong men.
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