Food, sugar, alcohol, drugs, nicotine, and caffeine, as well as process addictions such sex, spending, gambling, TV, and so on, are being used addictively when they are a way to avoid feeling your pain and taking responsibility for it. Substance and process addictions are the primary ways the ego wounded self anesthetizes against pain. When there is no loving adult to connect with your guidance and learn from your pain, the wounded self takes over to create safety with the addictive behavior it has learned.
Addiction and the Underlying Feelings We Want to Avoid
Dr. Paul is the author/co-author of several best-selling books, including Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By You?, Inner Bonding, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, Do I Have To Give Up Me to Be Loved By My Kids?, and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Dr. Paul's books have been distributed around the world and have been translated into eleven languages. Margaret holds a Ph.D. in psychology and is a relationship expert, noted public speaker, workshop leader, educator, chaplain, consultant and artist. She has appeared on many radio and TV shows, including The Oprah Winfrey Show. She has successfully worked with thousands of individuals, couples and business relationships and taught classes and seminars since 1967.