Personally, I can’t stand the word “needy.” It brings up a tone of shame that I have to then work through. But, as it pertains to relationships, it is a word that’s thrown around a lot. Women often get labeled as needy, but that doesn’t mean men are spared from the word. It’s important to know that when you’re labeled “needy,” it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
Trust me… I have had my own struggles with the word, and I’ll share some of that with you later. For now, just know that the word needy isn’t really a bad thing… It just has to do with your attachment style.
An attachment style is simply how you “attach” to your partner in relationships. It’s something that develops when you’re a child. The way you interact with your parents in your early years deeply impacts your relationships as an adult. While there are many attachment styles, the word needy implies you have an “anxious” attachment style.