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What Do You Really Want? The Love Edition

written by Dina Marais August 24, 2020
What Do You Really Want? The Love Edition

Isn’t it amazing what a huge psychological impact any big change has on our lives? Just the idea of starting afresh gives us renewed energy to make positive changes and do things differently. This is no different when it comes to our love life.

There is an excitement in the air as we ready ourselves to launch with new vigor and enthusiasm. Just like a bird shaking and rearranging its feathers, we straighten our bodies and feel the confidence as we move forward purposefully, ready for the new adventure!

Of course, this really comes together if the inspired changes are aligned to a bigger picture, like a life vision that gives you sustainable motivation to follow through and experience the effect of the changes on your life.

Joel A. Barker’s famous quote speaks to this and resonates with me personally:

Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world.

What Do You Want to Achieve in Your Love Life?

Thinking about your life, and especially your love life, what do you want to achieve this year?

Do you want to:

  • Find your soul mate?
  • Save your marriage?
  • Deepen the connection with your partner?
  • Have more sex?
  • Get a divorce?
  • Leave an abusive relationship?
  • Move on from a dead-end relationship?
  • Find new purpose and meaning in your life?
  • Develop your personal power?

To achieve this, what would it look like?
What would the impact be on your love life and life as a whole?
What would that give you?
What is important about that for you?

Whatever you wish to achieve, you need to remember:
  • You need to take responsibility for the change you want.
  • You must want it for you and not to please anybody else.
  • It starts with your relationship with yourself.
  • You cannot change anybody, you can only change yourself.

You see to follow through you need a “why”, hence the questions above.

Taking Responsibility

Taking responsibility is important because often we blame our problems on things external to ourselves – our partner, family, job, circumstances, etc.  When you take responsibility for the change, you feel empowered to be able to change starting with you for you.

Of course, you still need to know what needs to change in order to effect the change. Here you can be blind because you just don’t see what you need to change. Creating sustainable change includes changing your limiting beliefs about yourself, your partner, and your relationship.

When your relationship with your Self is healthy, then everything else falls into place to easily make your vision real in your life.

Take a moment now: see what you really want and evaluate it using the questions and criteria above. What do you become aware of?

To learn more, get your free Own Your Greatness Meditation on my website.

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