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5 Dating Turn-Offs that Scare Men Away

written by Lisa Copeland January 5, 2021
5 Dating Turn-Offs that Scare Men Away

Have you ever been on a date where it felt like everything was going smoothly? You were having fun, and then out of nowhere, he ended your time together for no reason at all? You start wondering . . . “Did I do something wrong?” Well, it’s possible you showed him one of these five dating behaviors that are notorious for turning men off. I’m going to share how to avoid these dating turn-offs and what you can do instead to keep a man interested and engaged with you.

Common Dating Turn-Offs

1. Bashing Your Ex on a First Date

Early in the dating game, a new man doesn’t want to hear how bitter and angry you may still feel about your ex.

To a man, this feels like three people are on the date, not two, and he feels he has to compete for better or worse with your ex to win you over.

It’s too much work for him, so he will probably check out quickly.

If you’re having trouble getting over your ex, work with a therapist before you start dating.  Otherwise, you’ll attract the same guy…maybe with different hair and a different job.

But chances are the same emotional issues that split you apart in the first place.

2. Hiding Your Feminine Side

Today, you’re often expected to be a tigress in the office, and a kitten at home.

If you’re going on a date after the end of a long day at work, it can be hard to make an emotional transition from work to dating.

You could easily end up giving orders to a man about what you’d like him to do for you – this is a dating turn-off.

To a man, this comes across as masculine behavior, and let me assure you if he’s straight and an Alpha Male, he’s not looking for another man to be his partner in life.

Be sure you spend time by yourself daily so you can decompress at the end of the day or else you might find your Mr. Right looking for a more feminine Ms. Right. 

3. Inquiring Minds Want to Know

The quickest way to scare a man off is by asking lots of privacy-invading questions about his life at the beginning of the dating process.

Privacy invading questions like this, “What time did you get up today?”  “What did you do last night?” or “Where are you going?” are dating turn-offs for emotionally healthy men.

Men love the freedom to do as they please.

When a man feels like you’re keeping tabs on his activities, he starts thinking you’re trying to take his freedom away and that you are going to try and control his life in some way.

This feels really scary to him!

When he’s ready, he’ll fill you in on his activities. Meanwhile, take this time to enjoy your own life instead of wanting to know so much about his.

4. Being Attached at the Hip

Nothing scares a man off faster than a woman he’s just met who wants to spend every waking hour of the day with him.

To a man, this appears as if you have no life of your own and that you’re looking to turn his life into yours.

After only one date, if you find yourself making plans for the two of you that stretch out over the next year, that’s going to be a problem.

Wanting too much of his time right away just makes you appear clingy and emotionally needy, which is scary to a man and makes him run.

In reality, men are most attracted to women who are confident and independent and have lives of their own that they bring to the dating table.

5. Saying the “L” Word Too Soon

Sometimes we find ourselves having intense feelings for the new man in our life, and we use the words “I love you” far too quickly.

It’s a good idea to keep this feeling to yourself until you’ve been dating a while or until he says the “L” word first.

If you say it before he’s ready, you could find yourself right back in the dating pool again.

I love sharing tips with you every week about dating over 50.

I hope you’re going out and using what you’re learning in your own dating life.

Sometimes, tips aren’t enough, and you need support personalized to what’s happening in your dating life.

If this is you, I’d love to help you.

Let’s set up a time to talk about what’s happening and how we can get you to where you want to be. Ok?

All you have to do is send me an email, and I’ll send you the details for how we can connect.

Not sure you can find love in a pandemic safely, you can.

Lisa…had another amazing evening with Jim Saturday. It was our seventh date! So enjoying our time together. And so grateful to you for showing me how to find love with such a wonderful man, especially during this crazy time. None of this would have been possible without your coaching and your insights. Thank you so much! Leigh, Ohio.

Believing in you!


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