The first date after the divorce can be a stressful experience when it should be exciting and fun. Months before I decided to date again, I made a pledge to myself that the only way to get through the first date and back into dating was through kindness; to myself.
It took all my nerve to actually push open the restaurant door. It was my first actual date in almost ten years, and I was scared to death. I had so many negative thoughts in my mind. What if I spilled my drink? What if he didn’t like me? What if I ended up talking about my divorce the whole time?
So, at the door, I took a deep breath and mentally reviewed the strategy I had set up months before – something I called the post-divorce dating strategy. After calming down and taking a breath, I entered the restaurant to employ the following.