Have you ever had the experience of trying to resolve a conflict and running up against your partner’s self-blame in a way that stops any exploration or possibility of a…...

I heard this yesterday and thought it was so appropriate to the work I do: When you take responsibility, you have the ability to respond. One of the greatest challenges…...

Our relationships can suffer when our apologies lack authenticity. Yet, why is apologizing more difficult than a root canal for some people? As a psychotherapist, I’ve found that saying, “I…...

One of the things I help my private clients do is identify the patterns of engagement with their spouses, specifically how they argue or disagree with one another.  It usually…...

Mark was a pleaser. He tripped all over himself trying to present himself as a nice guy. His life was dedicated to smiling, being positive, and trying to keep his…...

Men are charming. Actually, more than we give them credit for. Sometimes, it’s easy to even start a relationship without opening our eyes to their bad side, but instead, idealizing…...

When we fall in love, it’s natural to become attached and form a romantic bond. But once in love with a narcissist, it’s not easy to leave, despite the abuse.…...

Fixing our relationship just seems so hard… Maybe it would just be easier to find someone who has the qualities I want in an intimate relationship… It’s probably not going…...

To narcissists, relationships are transactional, like buying and selling. The goal is to get what you want at the lowest price. It’s a self-centered, business mindset. Emotions don’t intrude. In…...

One of the questions that we often receive from our readers is: What are the deal-breakers in relationships, and what’s the best way to deal with them? “Deal-breakers” are those…...