The next best thing to preventing conflict is having the skills to manage differences effectively. Differences are inevitable in relationships; conflict is optional. It’s the differences in our personalities, our…...

If your wife left or threatened to leave, this post was written especially for you. Read on for a scenario you might relate to, some warning signs to look out…...

Regardless of the problems that bring couples into therapy, what I often see driving their problems is one core one — the need for individuation, the need to speak up and be more…...

Have you ever had the experience of trying to resolve a conflict and running up against your partner’s self-blame in a way that stops any exploration or possibility of a…...

I heard this yesterday and thought it was so appropriate to the work I do: When you take responsibility, you have the ability to respond. One of the greatest challenges…...

Our relationships can suffer when our apologies lack authenticity. Yet, why is apologizing more difficult than a root canal for some people? As a psychotherapist, I’ve found that saying, “I…...

One of the things I help my private clients do is identify the patterns of engagement with their spouses, specifically how they argue or disagree with one another.  It usually…...

Mark was a pleaser. He tripped all over himself trying to present himself as a nice guy. His life was dedicated to smiling, being positive, and trying to keep his…...

Men are charming. Actually, more than we give them credit for. Sometimes, it’s easy to even start a relationship without opening our eyes to their bad side, but instead, idealizing…...

When we fall in love, it’s natural to become attached and form a romantic bond. But once in love with a narcissist, it’s not easy to leave, despite the abuse.…...