You are dating a five-year-old. Yes, that man across the dinner table from you–the one with beard stubble and crow’s–feet is actually a five-year-old boy. So are you. All of…

The following practices, developed from years as an LGBTQ therapist working with LGBTQ couples, may help you deepen your relationship. They may sound simple, but they have been proven to…

We can spend years with our partner, enjoying their company, building a life together, and having good sex, without being emotionally intimate. That can work for a while — sometimes even…

Adam Blum discusses what it means for gay men to be vulnerable in their relationships, particularly the benefits of being “needy” – in a healthy way. Two men loving each…...

Adam Blum offers advice to keep your LGBTQ relationship strong past the honeymoon phase. He recommends ways for you to feed your relationship to keep it nourished and strong.  The…...

When you fight with your partner it can feel like they are the enemy.  LGBTQ couples can get momentarily trapped in a belief that the person they love is evil,…...

When will life return to normal? Right now, there is no clear answer to that question. The uncertainty creates feelings of dread, anxiety, and grief among all of us. It’s exhausting. It’s getting…...

What if you really loved yourself? The concept of loving yourself has lost its power to inspire us because it was overused in cheesy popular media. We are in an ironic…...

“I don’t want to be selfish.” When I hear this statement in my psychotherapy practice, I get suspicious. Often, it is code for “I’m afraid of expressing my needs.” For…...

I work with a lot of gay men. Here’s what I’ve noticed: Gay men are very busy. It takes a lot of time to: Make it at work Stay fit…...