In society today, knowing your purpose in life and what you should live for has become the major criteria for measuring how happy your life is. There is a lot of pressure to know your purpose in life because if you don’t know, then the chances of you living a fulfilling and happy life are nil.
This is absolute rubbish.
Ralph Emerson stated that our purpose in life has nothing to do with happiness but more to do with how well we lived our lives.
The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.
That is the secret recipe to living a happy fulfilled life.
A Life with Purpose
My best friend, John, suddenly passed away a few weeks ago. John was a person who lived a purposeful life that was centered on his commitment and love for his family and serving others.
John did not seek out his purpose in life. He didn’t read personal development books on how to find your life purpose, and he never asked the question, “What should I live for?” He just knew what gave him joy: serving his family and the people who were in his life.
John was that person that Ralph Emerson was referring to in his quote: a man who showed compassion and kindness and who lived a full life with purpose and commitment.
John was not a famous man who had achieved world recognition for his amazing feats. He was my long-time friend, a truly great man who, to me, lived his life purpose to the fullest.
Not all of us are like John who just knew what his purpose in life was and then just did it. Some of us need guidance as to how we can start this journey.
3 Steps to Finding Your Life Purpose
Here are three very simple steps that if you follow will help you to attain purpose and fulfillment in life.
1. Disconnect from Social Media
We are relentlessly exposed to thousands of people who present a life where they seem to be living incredibly fulfilled and successful lives with purpose.
For many people, figuring out your life purpose is complicated and can be a drawn-out process that can take forever. This is in fact not true at all.
On social media, you only see the fabulous and fun parts of peoples’ lives; you do not see their true life that can be as challenging and as complicated as yours. No one escapes the realities of life – those life curveballs that come from nowhere.
If you are comparing your quality of life and your happiness with those people on social media, then you need to stop. You need to find your own measures of success as to what a fulfilled, happy life means to you.
Social media will not give you what you are seeking when it comes to finding what it is that will bring joy to your life.
When you are consistently experiencing joy in your life, you are living a purposeful life. You know what the kind of life you want to live and what is important to you. Using other peoples’ experiences of joy on social media is not the best way for you to determine your life purpose.
2. Ask These 3 Key Questions to Define Your Life Purpose
To start your journey to figuring out your purpose in life, ask yourself these three key questions:
- What is the legacy that I want to leave behind?
- What will people say about me when I am gone?
- What difference have I made to other peoples’ lives?
The answers to these three questions will help you determine your purpose in life.
Once you have defined these answers, the next step is for you to take action and consistently demonstrate those qualities that you believe are important for you to attain living a life with purpose and joy.
3. Focus on the Specific Actions that Bring You Joy
You do not write your life with words. . . You write it with actions. What you think is not important. It is only important what you do. — Patrick Ness
Discovering your purpose in life and what you should live for is the same for everyone in the world – rich or poor. Everyone has the opportunity to live life to the fullest. It is not complex, difficult, or out of your reach.
Finding your life purpose is very achievable. All you have to do is decide what it is that living a fulfilled, happy life means to you, and then go do it. Go be kind to others, and live your life the best way you can every day.
Acts of kindness, generosity, gratitude, and love are the core actions of living a life with purpose. If you focus on these actions on a daily basis, you will be living your life with purpose. It is at this point that the feelings of happiness fill your life.
The more you do for others, the happier you will be.
A Word of Warning
When you are living your life with purpose, it does not mean that you will transform into living the life of an angel.
Remember your reality – you will still have your faults, make huge mistakes, fail, and have to navigate your way through the challenges that life throws at you.
However, living a life with purpose and commitment builds your resilience and enables you to deal with life challenges from a place of strength and certainty.
Your power of choice is the only thing that you have that enables you to live a life with purpose and joy. My friend, John, knew how to use his power of choice to the fullest. He chose to live a life with purpose, and he knew what he had to do to bring joy into his life and to the people he loved – a very simple recipe to living life to the fullest.
The journey to knowing your life purpose and living your life purpose is within your reach. You are the only person who can do it, and you have control over how you want to live your life.
Remember that nobody else does – it is all down to you. I suggest that you go do it now!