In the many years I’ve been counseling, thousands of couples have come to me wondering if they should end their relationships. Most of these people were in love at one point but are now miserable with each other, or one partner is miserable with the other. Generally, they don’t know what the real problem is. They know what they don’t like about the other person. They know they can’t communicate about what is important to them. The couple knows they fight about money or sex or time or chores or hundreds of other things, or they ignore the problems and are distant. What they don’t know is what the real problem is.

The Real Problem

Leaving a relationship before knowing what the real problem is, is generally a waste of time (aside from domestic violence) -especially if you eventually want to be in another relationship.