If you are like most people, you may sometimes find yourself saying, “I should…” or, “I can’t…” from time to time. In this two-part series, contributing writer, Morgan Field, shares how to get past saying these phrases to help you live your best life! Here’s how to take your ‘should’ and ‘can’t’ and stick it.
Be Fearless and Track Your Progress
Progress will make you fearless if you intentionally track it and put all of your focus, energy, and attention on what you’ve overcome as you move forward on your journey.
If you don’t take time to sit down and track your growth and progress, then more than likely, you’ll fall into the category of those individuals who always focus on how much further they have to go and then are left overwhelmed with no end in sight.
There is an alternative.
There are those that always look at how far they’ve come – this fuels them to keep going because they’ve got benchmarks of tangible reference points that show how far they’ve come. It allows them to see what is actually possible in very short periods of time when you get out of your own way. The most powerful paradigm shifts happen when you accomplish the things that, at one point in time, you thought would never even be on the spectrum of possibility.
When I was younger, I was a gymnast, literally defying gravity every single day. I was constantly learning new things and growing my skill every single day. It was a boundless outlet for expression of growth and progress in which I was able to push past perceived barriers daily and expand my mental capacity for endless possibilities. I was completely, utterly, and totally fearless as an athlete and in everything that I approached in my everyday life.
Often, I was told it “should” take at least a month to learn a particular trick, and instead, I’d learn it in a couple of hours or a couple of days. That was because I had a proven track record of disregarding so many of the “shoulds” that everyone else lived their lives’ constrained by. Even within the art of gymnastics, I learned at an incredibly young age that others were most often wrong and that the standards that others had for their own lives – and their own limits – were incredibly low and narrow. As a competitive and fearless gymnast, I lived outside of those limitations. The more someone told me that I “couldn’t” or “shouldn’t” or put any kind of their own limiting beliefs on me, the more I was fueled to prove them wrong, and was successful in doing so every single time.