Permissive parenting comes from a set of false beliefs that lead to compliance, indulgence or indifference – and allowing your children to control you.
Do you allow your children to control you? Are you giving yourself up and going along with what your children want? Are you indulging your children – giving in to them – even when you know it’s not good for them? Are you withdrawn and indifferent, uninvolved with your children?
Are you coming from a set of false beliefs that lead to permissive parenting?
What are Your False Beliefs That Lead You to be Compliant, Indulgent or Indifferent?
1. If I don’t do what my children want, they won’t love me. I have to give myself up to be loved by my children.
Your children’s love for you is not conditional because love, by definition, is not conditional. They might not give you the approval you want. They might be upset with you if they don’t get what they want. But if you do constantly give them what they want, especially if it means giving yourself up or going against what is in their highest good, they will learn to disrespect you. Instead of being loving, they will learn to be bratty and demanding. This is permissive parenting.