The title of this article may sound a bit extreme, and, yet, when it comes to male and female interactions, there is not always peace, harmony, or respect. Throughout time, women have been murdered, manipulated, and abused by men.
And although the rights of women have gradually improved in certain societies, this hate still exists. It may appear in ways that are easy to spot, but it can also be seen in ways that are subtle and harder to notice.
A Closer Look
Of course, some women hate men and have been the perpetrators. However, this article is about taking a deeper look at some of the reasons why some men hate women. It is not about blaming or putting one gender above another, it is simply to try and shed some light on this occurrence.
The Modern Day
While times have changed and women have gradually become more accepted and appreciated in the western world, this hate still exists. And this can be expressed in numerous ways.
There are ways in which this happens at a personal level and how it happens at a social level; because although this hate exists, it is unlikely to be shown in a direct way. A man could say he hates women to himself or to the people that he knows, but this is rarely how it is recognized.
Like anything that is socially deemed as inappropriate or wrong, this hate is often repressed in a man and then ends up controlling their thoughts, emotions, sensations, behavior, and the ideas that they project onto women.
It can then become something that a man is not even aware of. How they treat a woman or how they perceive a woman then becomes normal and habitual. The reasons as to why they really hate them is still a mystery.
Just because a man hates women doesn’t mean that this will lead to the expression of hate. One of the things the ego mind does as a way to avoid feeling something that is classed as inappropriate either internally or externally is to go to the other extreme.
What will then happen is a man can become overly nice to women and end up worshipping them for instance. This can then lead to men being taken advantage of or controlled by women.
Different examples of hate will be revealed, depending on where the focus is pointed. One example of this hate is in the porn industry and how women are often treated. They are generally presented as objects and are physically violated.
Relationships are obviously another area where this hate will show up. It could be assumed that when a man hates women they would be single and do all that they could to avoid them. A kind of love-hate relationship can be created where they feel this hate on one side and a need for them on the other.
But while some men may just go from one woman to the other, some men can end up in a relationship with one. The woman is then used as a way for the man to regulate the hate that they feel. Having a woman there allows the man to release the feelings that they have. But this will also be a short-term solution and will not deal with the issues at a deeper level.
This can also influence the general outlook that men can have towards women. This could lead to men feeling as though they are above them in some way and as being more intelligent or superior to them.
Where Does It Come From?
Although a man can be physically stronger than a woman, at one point, they were a vulnerable, needy, dependent, and powerless child. And this child was, in most cases, brought up by a woman. It is likely that this woman had complete power. Now some mothers abuse this power and some don’t.
One of the most important factors here is how the mother responds to the child’s needs. There will be some mothers who are empathic and generally take care of the child’s needs on one side of the spectrum, and on the other, there will be mothers who are not empathic and ignore most of these needs. Additionally, there are the types of mothers that are fairly inconsistent in responding to the child’s needs. If they are not responded to enough or ignored completely, it is likely to lead to problems.
The child can feel angry, powerless, hopeless, and even suicidal.
In an ideal world, the child would have his needs met. And when this doesn’t happen, there would be the right support available shortly after this had taken place in the form of a therapist or healer. However, as the above rarely happens, other consequences take place.
These feelings, emotions, and sensations that the child felt by not having his needs met sufficiently will have to be repressed and denied in order to survive. Although the child may feel powerless, hopeless, and even hate towards his mother, this same person is crucial to the child’s survival. This leads to an internal split being formed.
So years will then pass, but the original pain and trauma still exists in the body. As the body is constantly looking to release the emotions that have been stored and frozen inside, it will need an outlet and people to project onto.
At first, the child may have felt anger, but over time this anger changed and became hate and even resentment. Due to the time that has passed, it will often lead to a disconnection. The hate that one feels towards certain women or all women today will not be seen as an extension of the hate that one felt towards his mother many years ago.
If one is carrying this pain within them, it will inevitably lead to present day challenges with women, and yet the real pain was created many, many years ago.
The ego mind will hold onto these memories and associations, not because they are the truth, but due to them being familiar and familiar means safe to the mind. For as long as these exist in the body, it will be extremely difficult to experience reality differently.
The perceptions that one has and the situations and women that one comes into contact with will all be influenced by what is going on within oneself. If they don’t match, then the ego mind will interpret life so that they do fit these perceptions.
In order to let go of the past, it may be necessary to seek external help from a therapist or a healer. The past is the past, and yet if the pain has never been looked at, it will still be there.
This pain that one experienced as a result of not getting their needs met as a child needs to be grieved so that one can truly let go of the past.