RD&T contributing author Noah St. John shares three little-known secrets to boost your self-confidence.
Most people that I meet really need more self-confidence.
I’ve been coaching people and mentoring people for the last 20-plus years. This includes helping people just like you to add six-figures, seven-figures, and – yes – even eight-figures to their businesses.
And one way that I do that is to help them to boost their self-confidence.
Three Little-Known Secrets to Boost Your Self Confidence
1) Identify it: What is it that you’re afraid of?
I want you to write down exactly what you’re afraid of:
- Are you afraid of doing videos?
- Are you afraid of writing a book?
- Are you afraid of an online course?
- Are you afraid of putting up funnels?
Let’s look at it: What is it that you’re afraid of? Self-doubt causes fear and fear causes us to not take action. Not taking action means you’re going to lose time, energy, and money. So you’re losing opportunities, you’re losing money, and you’re losing the worst thing of all: you’re losing time because time can never be replaced.
So, let’s examine your fears. Ultimately, what’s keeping you stuck right now – in your life or your business?
Try asking yourself this question in other words:
- What are you afraid of?
- What are you scared of?
- What’s the thing that scares you?
Make sure you write your answers down.
2) Accept the worst thing that could happen.
I want you to emotionally accept the worst thing that can happen.
Let’s say you do that thing: you write that blog and nobody comments or you put out that video and people make fun. Or maybe you call that person and he or she rejects you. If someone says, “no,” what is the worst thing that can happen?
That’s kind of it.
I mean, what’s the worst thing that can happen in any of these cases? Maybe there’s something bigger that you’re worried about. But I want you to write down what’s the worst thing that can happen and emotionally accept it.
Let me give you an example of what I’m talking about. You know, many years ago I moved to a little town in Ohio where I only knew one person, my friend Scott. My friend Scott introduced me to his friend, and that friend introduced me to this gorgeous blonde named Babette.
Boy, was she beautiful. And I went: “Wow! Would I love to date a girl like that.”
But I said, “Man, a girl like that!” I could never get a date with her – she’s way too pretty, she’s smart, she’s funny, she’s everything. I want to date this woman, but of course, she’ll never go out with me.
So, that’s what I “knew,” but then I said…
You know what, that’s what I was afraid of. I was afraid to call her and ask her out on a date. So, I see what I need to do. I’m gonna do it anyway because – you know what – let’s say she says, “No.” I already don’t have a date, so I didn’t really lose anything.
3) Take action.
Just take that action expecting the worst that could happen – just take action right in the face of fear.
So I call her up.
I said, “Hey,” (because, you know, we had met one time). And then I said, “Would you like to go on a date?”
Of course, she’s just going to say no…
But she said, “Sure!”
“This is me, Noah, you’re talking to you. You know that?”
She says, “Yeah, I know.”
So, she said yes.
And, you know what? We’re happily married and we just celebrated our eighth anniversary.
So, hello! What are you waiting for?
Stop doing that to yourself; stop psyching yourself out before you get in the game. Just go up to the plate.
What if you strike out? Your strikeout is going to the next batter.
You never know what’s going to happen, and let me remind you this one quote that I love:
Everything you desire is on the other side of fear.
Everything you desire: more time, more energy, better relationships, more money to grow your business, to lose weight, have happy relationships – whatever it is you want, it’s on the other side of fear.
Why is that? Because everything is on the other side of your familiar zone. That’s your comfort zone, but there’s no such thing as a comfort zone.
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Noah St. John, Creator of Freedom Lifestyle Experience.