I used to work hard to get myself into a centered and loving place, and then something would happen, and suddenly, I’d be triggered into my wounded self again – feeling angry, depressed, anxious, or hurt. It didn’t seem fair that I would work so hard to get myself into a good place, only to have it ruined by someone else’s behavior triggering me into my wounded self.
If someone I was close to was angry, distant, rejecting, shaming, blaming, or disconnected from themselves and me, I would get triggered into my wounded self. Their wounded self triggered my wounded self. I would be triggered into unhealed old pain from childhood. Unhealed old pain is like an unhealed wound – it hurts when touched.