Being human means needing reassurance sometimes. Even the most secure people have moments of self-doubt, insecurity, and feeling overwhelmed. Whether you need a little or lots of validation, this is nothing to be ashamed of.
Many of us didn’t receive reassurance growing up. We didn’t get the memo that we have worth and value — and that we’re okay just as we are. As a result, we may have a reassurance deficit, which propels us to continually look outside ourselves for validation to help us feel grounded.
If we grew up with a heavy dose of criticism or neglect, we may not have developed a secure internal base. If we didn’t have a safe and healthy attachment with caregivers, we may not have a stable inner platform from which to operate confidently in an unpredictable world.