I’m psyched to be delivering some fantastic news…You do not have to go to work today! Nor do you have to pick your kids up from school, prepare a healthy dinner, or get the oil changed in your car. In fact, you don’t have to do anything! Okay okay, you’re probably thinking, “What the hell are you talking about, Ella?” Well in case you don’t already know, I am all about helping people get out of victim mode and step into their power.
The Power of Words
We’re big on vocabulary at Vegan Life Coach Academy, and how the language we use can dictate who we think we are, how we move through the world, and what we believe we’re capable of.
So one thing we work on with our members is empowering vocabulary changes… And wow, let me just tell you that it never ceases to amaze me the difference replacing just one word or phrase can make in our lives.
Think about how many times a week, heck, a day, that you say, “I have to…”
I have to get out of bed now. I have to go to work. I have to go to the gym. I have to make dinner. I have to go to my kid’s soccer game…
But, do you really HAVE TO? Are you being forced? Do you not have a choice? Are you really that powerLESS?
You Have the Power
You DO have a choice! You DO have the power to choose what you do and don’t do with your precious time and energy.
Now you may be saying, “Ok yeah, but if I don’t go to work, I’ll lose my job,” or “If I don’t go to the gym I’ll never reach my goals.”
And that all may be true!
But here’s the deal… Are there consequences to your decisions? Of course! You choose not to go to work, and you’ll probably get fired. You choose to grab fast food instead of making a healthy dinner, you’ll probably feel like crap. You get the idea?
So where are you right now… Are you a victim of your schedule, or are you empowered by what you choose to do with your time?
And you know, it’s not only about understanding these types of powerful mindset shifts, but also putting them into use every single day until they become second nature. Additionally, having a structured process with consistent individual and group coaching, accountability, and peer support is part of the formula that makes Vegan Life Coach Academy such a huge success for our Visionaries members.
So, I challenge you to own your schedule by replacing the phrase, “I have to,” with one of the following:
- “I choose to…”
- “I get to…”
- “I’m grateful to be able to…”
- “I’m fortunate I have the opportunity to….”
Why Stop There?
The concept that we have control over what we do with our time and energy can be applied to every aspect of our lives.
We all have the same number of hours in our day (I believe that number is “not enough”), so we have to constantly prioritize, which is often done without a second thought.
But by saying, “I choose to…” we are forcing ourselves to prioritize our time with intention. Pretty cool if you really think about it, huh?
Most of the clients I work with are used to taking care of everyone else’s needs before their own. I call it “People-Pleasing Syndrome,” and I am definitely a recovering people-pleaser myself! Are you?
But here’s the deal…
Putting our own needs last may seem unselfish, but it’s actually the opposite. You simply cannot serve others to the best of your ability if you’re not taking care of yourself. Not to mention the underlying resentment that undoubtedly forms when you’re exhausted and overwhelmed.
So it’s time to not only replace “I have to” with “I choose to,” but also start to prioritize self-care.
I know, I know, so much easier said than done (which just means that the time to start working on changing this pattern is now)!
What will you do, starting today, to consistently take better care of yourself? Start with just one activity to add to your routine, whether it be a dance class or just thirty minutes of quiet time to read. Put it in your calendar and follow through with your commitment to yourself. (If you’re like our clients, you’re great at keeping your commitments to everyone but yourself.)