If you are in the habit of self-sabotage, you are actively getting in the way of your own goals and dreams. The reasons one may do this can be complex, but there are ways to learn how to stop self-sabotage. The following quote is one of the best descriptions of what self-sabotage is all about and how it negatively impacts living life to the fullest.
Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen. -Alyce Cornyn-Selby
Why Do We Sabotage Ourselves?
Self-sabotage is when we do something that gets in the way of our intent or of our biggest dreams or goals in life. We want something, but somehow we never accomplish it.
Many of us (including me) are engaged in self-destructive behaviors that have become habits. We allow these behaviors and habits to undermine our right to success and happiness. The funny thing is that we often don’t even realize we are doing it. These destructive thoughts and behaviors are part of our life, and we accept that!
Your brain is built to reinforce and regulate your life, but what many people don’t realize is that, just as your brain is built to regulate your physical self, it also tries to regulate your mental self.
Your subconscious mind is the gatekeeper to your comfort zone. The subconscious is wired to see self sabotage as a way to protect you, prevent pain, and keep you safe. When we want to step out of our comfort zone or do anything that challenges us, our subconscious starts to work on stopping us.