When we begin to feel like our marriage is in trouble, we go looking for information. We want to understand why we’re struggling and we want answers about how to make it better.
According to research by John Gottman, a prominent researcher and practitioner, couples wait, on average, six years before seeking help in their struggling marriage. A lot can happen in six years, a lot of resentments can build, a lot of hurtful words can be said, and a lot of actions that can’t be undone can occur.
In my coaching practice, it’s been my experience that couples wait until their marriage is on life support before getting serious about attempting to fix the recurring problems and disconnect in their relationship; and sometimes the distance is simply too far to bridge by that time.