Internet dating can be challenging, but you can find love online when you know how to navigate the dating sites and you have a great profile. That’s why today I want to share with you 9 of my Best Profile Rules, guaranteed to help you attract the type of man you’ve been wanting to meet.
Best Profile Rules
1.) Choose a profile picture that you’re smiling in.
Men are visual and what gets their attention first is your face.
Over the years, I’ve looked at a lot of profile pictures, and I’m always amazed when women post pictures that could be mug shots. I kid you not. All they need is a clipboard with numbers across their chest. That’s how unhappy they look.
The thing is, men are naturally drawn to pictures of you smiling. So make sure you post pics with some makeup, clothes that show off the best you, and a great smile. You’ll come across as fun and positive and as the kind of woman a good man wants to meet.
2.) Be creative when answering the profile questions on dating sites.
No one loves answering all those essay questions dating sites ask you. But it’s worth your while to get a bit creative when you do, especially if you can write a story that a man can imagine himself being a part of.
Here’s what I mean. The site asks you: What’s Your Idea of a Great Date? Instead of just saying riding bikes in the mountains, add a few adjectives that draw him in.
Here’s an example: Riding bicycles in the park together on a beautiful summer day would be a great date. We’d stop by a stream, open a bottle of wine, and enjoy a wonderful picnic together sharing our food as well as our thoughts.
3.) Work at keeping the I’s in your profile to a minimum.
Think about this. When you go to a party and you meet someone who keeps saying I do this, I like that, I am this, don’t you get bored and start looking for someone to save you so you can move on?
This version happens online with the overuse of the word “I.” Here’s how to avoid the “I” trap.
Instead of writing: I am looking for a wonderful man to share my life with.
Shorten it to: Am looking for a wonderful man to share my life with.
It’s still grammatically correct, but you appear so much more relaxed.
4.) Be flirty and engaging in your profile.
Lots of men and women write profiles that could be considered a long short story versus a brief introduction to who you are.
Save the details about your life for when the two of you meet. That’s when you can share meaningful and interesting stories together.
The only purpose of a profile is getting a quality man to notice you and want to meet you.
5.) Ask questions in your profile to draw a man in.
You can say something like: Love getting dressed up and dining out but also enjoy a great burger at one of the dives around town. What’s your favorite spot to hang out? or Want to join me? We can share our french fries.
These types of questions give a man something to write to you about.
6.) Leave out sexual innuendos.
When I first started dating (long before I became a dating coach), I wrote a line in my profile about making love on the beach.
Wow, what a mistake that was.
Today, I never let a woman write anything that relates to sex or making love because guess who it attracts? Booty calls.
7.) I know you’re looking for your “soul mate,” but leave those words out of your profile.
Hey, I used to write that, too, because that is who we want to share our life with.
But it’s really cliche, and men have told me they see it over and over again in women’s profiles.
Your goal is to look unique, not the same as every other woman online.
8.) Leave out the demands in your profile.
Men over the years have told me how turned off they are when women write they have to make so much money or they have to take them to certain restaurants to get a date.
If you write this, then you come across as high maintenance.
Yes, it’s important to let men know what you’re interested in, but do it by telling stories in your profile about the things you love to do.
Most men have had enough demands put on them in their life and aren’t looking for someone they don’t know to add to them.
9.) Be true to who you are in your profile.
Pretending to be a certain type of woman just to attract a quality man not only doesn’t work, but it’s also pretty hard to keep the facade up.
You have no control over who a man ultimately wants or who he is looking for.
You only have control over what you want in a quality man.
And that’s why all my coaching clients, whether it’s through a VIP Day with me or private or group coaching, use a dating strategy called a Quality Man Template to help them finally attract the right man into their life.
A client of mine wrote:
Lisa, I met a really great guy. He’s thoughtful and smart and tells me he loves that he can talk with me about everything. He said he’s a bit scared that he feels so comfortable so fast. He’s a great guy, and I’m having fun. My VIP Day with you and the Quality Man Template we worked on together told the universe precisely what I wanted and bam! He appeared. You were so incredibly helpful, Lisa. Thank you doesn’t begin to cover it! Aly
I’d love to help you find love after 50, too.
All you have to do is click here and tell me a little bit about what’s been happening in your love life and why dating has been so challenging for you.
If I think I can help you, I’ll send you a link to my calendar, and we’ll set up a complimentary Dating Strategy Session to talk about how you can make your dream of finding love after 50 come true for you.
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