Charlie: If you’re like me, you’ve often been mystified by others (including your primary partner) who are unable to accept a reasonable and obvious point of view in regard to a subject. This is especially true when you do not see eye to eye. It can seem, at times, that they are immune to your efforts to persuade them to reconsider their perspective. This can happen even in the face of overwhelming evidence that your perspective is accurate. And sometimes, even when mounting evidence proves your point of view is correct, they still resist accepting what has become (at least to you), irrefutably true.
What the human being is best at doing is interpreting all new information so that their prior conclusions remain intact.
For many years, it was a mystery to me how an otherwise intelligent, rational, and open-minded person like Linda could possibly not see the validity of the point that I was attempting to get her to see. That is until I finally awakened to the very real possibility that I could be, and had been, in the exact same position with Linda that she had been with me. She had experienced the same kind of frustration and mystification at my intransigence that I had with hers.