Here, RD&T contributing authors Linda and Charlie Bloom discuss recovery from being conflict avoidant.
The Route to Recovery
Try to keep in mind that being a conflict avoider is nothing to be ashamed of, that the majority of people have issues with conflict – even those who attempt to intimidate others with threats and aggression. They are just dealing with their fear differently than you are.
Practice self-forgiveness for all the times that you have judged or punished yourself in some way because you felt ashamed or weak.
Forgive others whom you have harbored resentment towards or punished by direct or passive means.