Anger often makes us uncomfortable. It’s uncomfortable to witness and uncomfortable to feel. Witnessing your child’s anger can be especially uncomfortable.
In order to relieve this feeling, parents will often encourage children to “stop crying” and say things like: “it’s nothing to cry about.”
It’s moments like these that plant the seeds of unhealthy anger.
The “stop crying parent” is just doing what they were taught by their own parents, who were probably taught that by their parents and on and on. While telling your child to “stop crying” isn’t emotional child abuse per se, your child may still need help with depression, addiction, or other issues later in life.