Are you aware of what is important to you? Do you want to get married, have kids, be in a monogamous or open relationship? What qualities are the most important to you?
When your date starts telling you stories about their life that demonstrate dishonesty and your body reacts, LISTEN! When they reveal stories of drug addiction, promiscuity, or how their ex was a horrible person and all the hurtful things they did, LISTEN! Are you willing to accept that this person struggles with boundaries, self-esteem, and integrity? There is no need to judge, only Listen! Do you require an enlightened partner with the same religion, ethics, philosophy, and interests as you?
