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The Mind/Body Connection and Feeling Safe

written by Oliver JR Cooper January 9, 2020
The Mind/Body Connection and Feeling Safe

When someone is in touch with their body, they will be aware of how they feel and what their needs are. Through having this connection, they will be able to make use of the information that is inside them. When one has a strong mind/body connection, they may feel more at ease and safe in life.

Examples of the Mind/Body Connection in Action

When You Are Not At Your Best:

If one feels tired or as though they are not at their best, they will be able to take a step back and take it easy. If this is not something that they can do straight away, due to being at work, for instance, they might be able to do this once they have finished for the day.

When You Are Feeling Upset:

Another example of being in touch with the mind/body connection happens when one feels upset about something and needs support, causing them to reach out to a friend or a family member. Talking about what is going on for them can make it easier to handle what they are going through.

When You Are Angry:

Lastly, one could be angry about something that has happened, and they end up using this information to make a change in their life. If they are angry because they haven’t been treated well, speaking out about this can allow them to assert boundaries.

The Key Component to Inhabiting Your Own Body

For one to not only listen to what is taking place inside them but to actually make use of this information, they will need to feel safe enough to do so. Yet, if someone has pretty much always felt safe in their body, there will be no reason for them to realise this connection.

Due to how they have experienced life for most, if not all, of their life, this can just be what is normal. This means that they will have an inner sense of safety and security, which is why they can inhabit their body.

External Threats: The Disconnect Between Mind and Body

If the person who never has to think about the mind/body connection –due to it being second nature– were to watch a scary film or hear footsteps behind them at night, they may find that they leave their body. This would have made them more alert and prepared them to either fight, run away, or freeze. When this takes place, their attention will be on what is going on outside of them, with what is taking place inside being overlooked.

However, if one didn’t have this ability, they would be like a sitting duck.

Their ability to defend themselves against external threats would be nonexistent, and this would naturally make them an easy target.

Fortunately, this is not going to be how one usually experiences life and this will allow them to operate as a whole human being. If they were to think about what it is like when they are in their head and what it is like when they are in their body, they are likely to notice that it is very different.

Being Out-of-Touch With Your Body

For others, being in their body will be something that they rarely, if ever, experience. For someone like this, they are going to spend a lot of time in their head or even disconnected from this part of their being.

They won’t need to watch a scary film or to be walking around at night and hear footsteps, as they will be on edge anyway. Or if they don’t feel on edge, they will be acting as though it is not safe for them to be in their body and to relax.

As a result of this, ignoring most of their needs and being out of touch with their feelings is likely to be the norm, and this will happen without them even realising it. They are going to be so caught up in what is going on around them that what is going on inside them will largely be overlooked.

Another outcome of this is that one is likely to spend a lot of time running on adrenaline, and this is not going to be good for their health. Clearly, one will need to get back into their body and to be less concerned with what is going on around them.

Getting Back In Touch with the Mind/Body Connection

Being in touch with the mind/body connection is what allows one to actually live and to operate as a whole human being, as opposed to merely existing and being stuck in survival mode. But, while this can appear to be the right thing, it doesn’t mean that one will simply be able to get back into their body.

And even if one can get back in there, it doesn’t mean that they will be able to stay there for very long. Not only can what is going on around them be an issue, what is going on inside them can also be an issue.

Not Feeling Safe In Your Body:

If one were able to take a step back from what is going on, they may find that the main reason why they can’t relax is due to what is taking place inside them. What is taking place inside them is also going to be projected externally, thereby causing them to be frightened by their own inner world.

The Disconnect May Start in Childhood

It might seem strange as to why one wouldn’t feel safe in their body, but this is likely to show that they have experienced trauma. This could be something that they have experienced during their adult life or it could go back to what took place during their early years.

If it goes back to their early years, it could illustrate that this was a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect. Their whole being would have been overwhelmed, pushing them out of their body in the process.

Being in their body would have been too painful and they would have had the need to be on alert to try to stop themselves from being harmed. Thus, instead of their body being somewhere where they felt safe and secure, it would have been somewhere that felt unsafe and caused them to experience a lot of pain.

Trauma stays inside unless it’s dealt with.

And unless this trauma is dealt with, it is going to be more or less impossible for them to not just get back into their body but to stay there.

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they will probably need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

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