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The Next Stage of The Relationship Triangle

Part Two: Being The Adult

written by Robert Taibbi July 22, 2019
The Next Stage of The Relationship Triangle

In Part One of this series, Robert Taibbi discusses the various roles within the relationship triangle. Part Two discusses the next stage of the relationship triangle: Being the adult.

The Adults are Clear About who has The Problem

This is represented by the vertical line running between them. If you feel it, it’s yours. This is a key concept, one invaluable for couples to understand and incorporate. By being aware of who has the problem, the individuals can avoid the defensiveness, anxiety, control, and manipulation of couples caught in the triangle.

They also can be more intimate. The problem the rescuer and victim face in their relationship is that the roles, which is not the people themselves but only parts of them, keep them stuck. The rescuer cannot let down his guard or get too vulnerable because he is afraid that the victim will not be able to handle it. Similarly, the victim cannot ever get too strong because the rescuer will feel threatened and out of job. The long line between the victim and rescuer is real. It represents the emotional distance between them.

The adults don’t have this problem. Both can be responsible, strong, and yet honest and vulnerable. They can take risks, are not locked in roles, and hence, can be more open and intimate.

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