I flirted with pickup artist techniques when I chanced upon the book, The Game, at the local bookstore when I was 19 years old. I had just broken up with my ex-girlfriend, and I was reeling in depression and self-victimization.
It was as if I picked up The Bible. I was hooked on the idea that you could do something about your chances with girls. I was hooked on the idea that as long as you did certain things, you could get a girl. It’s like a formula for sex. I would then go on to spend all the free time I had in the military reading up on all the dating advice I could get my hands on.
I remembered that I “negged” a girl and she laughed; it was exhilarating at first. Girls are finally finding me funny now! I thought. If a girl was laughing, it meant she was interested in me, right? Well, she stopped texting me on the phone in a few days later. Months passed, I still wasn’t getting kisses or sex or anything of that sort. I did, however, feel more empowered socially.
I eventually got desperate and emptied half my savings at 19 years old and hired a dating coach that promised a “Singaporean method” to ‘pick up’ and finally get the girl.
The Truth About Pickup Artist Techniques
Eventually, after a lot more trial and error, I got my first taste of success. I started dating more girls and slept with some of them, and I prided myself on knowing these little secrets that nobody knew.
I didn’t go around telling my friends what I was on to either because I knew they would laugh it off. Eventually, after repeated success with girls over a couple of months, it was “proof” that these pickup artist techniques and theories worked.
Okay, after years of doing this all over the world, I’m going to let you in on a couple of secrets. There’s a lot of marketing and fluff in the dating-advice industry, let me break it down for you.