As the speed with which the institution of marriage is unraveling, married couples may soon find themselves in the minority. We live in a consumerist culture based on self-fulfillment; as such, the ritual of marriage can seem cumbersome. Some believe that living together with no strings attached is a more convenient option than the bonds of marriage.
Living with someone ’till do us part’, with no regrets, is proving to be an incredible feat.
For those who contemplate marriage, it is important to understand the meaning of it. It is an exclusive relationship between a man and a woman, which contributes to ‘oneness’ when they become two, interlocking parts of a whole, as described by psychologist Harriet Lorner. Failure to understand this concept is what drives couples apart.
You have to develop a ‘we psychology.’ Think of yourself as a pair, not individuals. You retain individuality but add to the identity of the other, and the whole becomes greater than the sum of its parts.