Have you ever had a family member who is extremely smart but not the greatest at emotionally connecting with you? Or do you have a friend that questions everything you do and loves to ask the question, “Why?” Or maybe you have a very intelligent boss who is capable of solving complicated problems, but he never listens to any of your good ideas? Chances are that you are in a relationship with someone in the INTJ Meyers-Brigg personality.
Being in an INTJ relationship can be quite challenging, so here’s the breakdown of everything you need to know about them and how to best connect with them.
For the purposes of this article, I will be personifying the INTJ personality and using it as a noun.
What Is an INTJ?
INTJs are one of the rarest personality types and form only 2% of the population. Here is a brief overview of the characteristics:
- (I)ntroversion– They focus their attention inward and get their energy from having time alone
- i(N)tuition– They rely on the information they get from within themselves. As a result, they tend to focus more on ideas and concepts rather than facts and details.
- (T)hinking – They prefer to make their decisions based on their own logical reasoning and analysis rather than their own emotions.
- (J)udgement – They orient themselves to the external world through planning and organization rather than going with the flow and having spontaneity.
What Are INTJs like?
INTJs are natural-born leaders, but they don’t rush to take charge of situations unless they feel it’s absolutely necessary. They are able to think quick on their feet and come up with effective solutions when things are not going well.
They are intensely curious and have an engineering type mind where they always have a need to comprehend how things work.
More importantly, the purpose of their need to understand things actually isn’t to satisfy their curiosity, but it’s more to figure out how to apply that knowledge in an innovative manner to effectively create improvement.