They’re (almost) inevitable: those awkward holiday moments when you find yourself internally begging someone — anyone! — to change the subject. Maybe Dad is picking a fight about politics, Mom is asking invasive questions or your sister is criticizing your choices. Regardless, you are uncomfortable, anxious, and unprepared to fix the situation.

You’re not alone. The holidays are ripe for discomfort. When “you’re family,” some people forget to respect boundaries and social pleasantries. Add a sprinkling of close proximity with no easy way out and most are bound to feel anxious.